Loneliness/Isolation

Why Do We Feel So Alone?

Dealing with major changes in life can be one of the most isolating experiences in life. Even when surrounded by people, it’s common to feel completely alone—like no one truly understands what you’re going through. Loss or major changes can flip your world in an instant, and suddenly, the connections you once had have just disappeared overnight or they just might not feel the same.

Loneliness isn’t just about missing the person you lost. It’s about the shift in your identity, your routines, and sometimes even your social circles.

Friends and family might not know how to support you, or you might withdraw without realising it. And then there’s that unspoken pressure – society tells us to “move on,” but inside, you still feel like a piece of you is missing.

Isolation happens when no one really sees the emotional storm you’ve been through

When you’re going through a period of transition in your life, you feel like nobody gets you. Some key reasons why women in experience deeper loneliness after loss or change include:

• Changing relationships – The dynamics with friends and family may shift, especially if they struggle to relate to your grief or change.
• Life responsibilities – Many women are caregivers, balancing work, children, or aging parents, leaving little space to process their emotions.
• Lack of emotional support – Society often expects women to be strong and resilient, which can make asking for help feel difficult. You know – you’re supposed to be Superwoman!
• Loss of social identity – If your loss involved a spouse or life partner, it can feel like your role in the world has changed overnight.
• Fear of burdening others – You might avoid reaching out because you don’t want to bring others down with your grief.

How to Cope With Loneliness

Loneliness may feel overwhelming, but there are ways to reconnect with yourself and others. Healing doesn’t mean forgetting – it means finding new ways to engage with life while carrying your love and memories forward.

1. Reach Out—Even When It Feels Hard

It’s natural to withdraw in times of turmoil, but connection is essential for healing. If you don’t feel like talking to family or friends, consider joining a woman’s support group or seeking professional guidance. Speaking to people who truly understand can be a lifeline.

2. Create New Routines & Social Connections

Loss or change often disrupts the routines that once gave life structure. Slowly introduce new activities or revisit old hobbies that bring joy, whether that’s joining a class, volunteering, or simply taking regular walks in nature.

3. Learn to Enjoy Your Own Company

Loneliness and solitude are different. Spending time alone can feel daunting, but it can also be a time for reflection, self-discovery, and growth. Try journaling, meditation, or even listening to podcasts that resonate with your experience.

4. Give Yourself Permission to Grieve

There’s no timeline for healing. It’s okay to have moments of loneliness and sadness. The key is to acknowledge these feelings without letting them define your entire experience.

5. Take Small Steps Toward Reconnection

If socialising feels overwhelming, start small – send a message, make a short phone call, or meet a trusted friend for coffee. Small moments of connection can gradually rebuild your support network.

Final Thoughts

Grief can make the world feel smaller, but you are not alone in this. Loneliness and isolation are real, but they are also temporary. With time, support, and gentle steps forward, you can rebuild connections, find comfort in your own company, and create a life that honours both your loss and your future.

If you’re struggling with loneliness, know that help is available. You don’t have to do this alone.

Suffering from Insomnia? Is this you?

Lying in bed, the world around you cloaked in darkness, while your mind refuses to surrender to slumber.  Insomnia, a common sleep disorder, casts a veil of wakefulness over the night, leaving you yearning for a good night’s rest. It can also happen when you have experienced a loss or major change in life.

Did you also know there are 2 types of Insomnia?  (As if one was not enough…)

Type 1 Insomnia:

Type 1 insomnia, also known as onset insomnia, is like a gatekeeper that obstructs the entrance to dreamland. If you are struggling with Type 1 insomnia you probably find it hard to get to sleep at the beginning of the night. As the world settles into slumber, you may wrestle with racing thoughts, anxiety, or a sense of restlessness. Nights can become a battleground!

Type 2 Insomnia:

Type 2 insomnia, presents a different challenge altogether. It’s as if sleep is a fleeting guest, vanishing in the middle of the night, leaving you stranded in the realm of wakefulness. If you are struggling with Type 2 insomnia you may find yourself waking up multiple times during the night or experiencing difficulty returning to sleep once awakened.

The good news is you no longer have to suffer from sleep deprivation.  Get that good night’s sleep that you have been yearning for!

All you have to do right now is take that first step and book your free call.